“It’s a terrible thing, I think, in life to wait until you’re ready. I have this feeling now that actually no one is ever ready to do anything. There is almost no such thing as ready. There is only now. And you may as well do it now. Generally speaking, now is as good a time as any.”
“Ready” is a made-up word. Well, all words are made up, but “ready” is a really silly one.
What does it even mean to be ready? Are we ever really ready for anything?
Ready or not, life can throw anything at us at any given moment.
Ready or not, relationships end, jobs are lost, and all that we hold on to so tightly can be gone in a split second.
Ready or not, we meet the love of our life, we stumble upon the greatest opportunity, we make a difference in somebody’s life.
Ready or not, how we speak, act, and react in the world will have an effect not only on our own life but on the lives of the ones we love or of anyone we interact with.
Ready or not, we will have to live with the consequences of our actions.
So why do we ever think that we need to feel “ready” in order to do life? We can prepare, we can anticipate, we can presume and assume and do our good old “best”, but we can never predict which way the wind will blow.
I’m 42 and I am not ready to be an adult, I’m not ready to be a parent, I’m not ready to find my purpose, as a matter of fact sometimes I feel totally and utterly inadequate and unequipped to deal with anything at all, I just want to crawl under a blanket and be left alone. Totally NOT ready. Could I just put life on hold for a few days? Because hey, I’m not ready yet! Well, guess what? Life doesn’t take breaks.
The bills still need to get paid, the dishes still need to get washed, the children still need parenting. But if I had been ready BEFORE I committed to all of this, would things be different. Can I guilt-trip my life away about not having been ready enough? Not ready to pick the right major in college, not ready to marry when I did, not ready to have children when I did, not ready to figure out a career, not ready to find a fitting life partner, not ready to be who I thought I ought to be?
Someone who matched my ideal version of myself, someone who would have her shit together for a change, SHE would always be ready! Perhaps someone with a creative and exciting career and a thoughtful, deep-thinking, sexy man by her side, living a simple yet sophisticated bohemian life. Someone who dealt with her shit and healed her wounds, someone who can hold her ground and can stand strong and tall in the face of adversity. Someone who lives mindfully and truthfully and doesn’t follow any script or fit into any box. Someone who always knows just the right thing to say and do. Someone who has learned how to love others in a way that doesn’t push them away because she’s already learned to love the most important person of all: Herself.
Why didn’t this someone ever show up? Where is she?
See, the whole idea of readiness implies worthiness, right or wrong, good or bad. “If only you had been ready!” “See? Look what you’ve done! You should have known better!” “Not ready” leads to concepts like mistakes, fault, blame, a feeling of being not good enough and less than. Or it can even become an excuse, a body of armor under which we shove every fear and every paranoia about who we are and who we are not. “Oh the timing was off, I just wasn’t ready” , “Oh it sounds amazing but I’m just not ready right now”.
Ready is another word for bullshit.
The only timing involved in doing life is about how long it takes for us to figure out who we really are at any given moment in our life, become fully aware of it and live by It. We will change and we will evolve but if at every stage of our growth we are connected to our true nature, while fully accepting and loving it without judgment, then that is as close to being “ready” as we will ever be.
On the other hand, if each moment is foggy and confusing and we have no clue of who the hell we are, then life feels like walking through a minefield. Every decision we take has the potential of catapulting us farther and farther away from our truth and our path.
Most of us live at least half our lives in this fog and confusion, almost sleepwalking. We are computers running on a program, but we need to become our own hackers and debunk the system. Once we take control of the mind and use it as a tool rather than letting it treat us as one, then every choice and decision is the one and only possible way to go about it, because our truth, our essence, our higher self was in charge. And our higher self doesn’t care what we did in the past or what we’ll do in the future, it doesn’t judge, it doesn’t loathe, it doesn’t blame, it simply IS right here and now. You see, we do not need to be ready if we know who we are, we simply need to BE.
The journey of peeling off the layers, of updating the software we run on, can be a long and treacherous one. And we will make plenty of decisions from that place of confusion, fear and uncertainty and as the aftermath results of those decisions pile up, we must not give up on our mission to find that essence, that truth that will set us free. Even in days when that word “ready” hangs heavily on our mind, “oh maybe I am not ready for any of this”, we must disregard it. We must go back to the course. All of our actions come out of our level of consciousness at that given moment. That moment is now gone. Now there is a new moment and that is all we have, every new now can see a new version of us, one that can be “ready” if so it decides.
And that is the purpose of the work, to get to that place where I am who and how I am without the possibility of being any other way and I am perfectly ok with it.
Ready or not.
Vita Semeraro is a holistic health coach, a yoga teacher, a writer, a single mother and a self-growth enthusiast. She is originally from Italy and she founded VitaSana Flow in 2016 to share her findings in her never-ending journey to self-healing, self-love and self-actualization with the intent to inform and empower others. She takes a holistic approach to wellness and health that embraces the mind, the body and the spirit.
Vita believes that cultivating Self-Love is the premise to living a healthy and fulfilling life. She encourages Self-Love as a radical daily practice expressed by the thoughts we think, the food we eat, and by cultivating a spiritual and mystical life. She received her Integrative Nutrition Health Coach Certificate in 2017. Her nutrition approach encourages a gut-healthy, whole foods, mostly plant-based diet that is good for both the body, the spirit and the environment.
She received her 200 Hours YTT in 2014 from Yoga & Healing Center in Scotch Plains and completed Level I and Level II Yin Yoga Certification at the Integrated Yoga Institute in NYC under Corina Benner of Wake Up Yoga, who studied under Paul Grilley. You can take her classes at AMP Yoga Studio in Springfield, Aquarian Yoga in Westfield, Yoga Essence in New Providence and the Nature’s Salt Cave & Float Pod in Cranford.
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