The holiday season brings SO many things: food, gifts, parties, songs, snow (sometimes), and if we are willing to dig just a little deeper, the chance to reconnect with loved ones and ourselves.
No matter how busy we get, and no matter where we find ourselves, we can undoubtedly find ways to make relationship renewal a priority.
One major way we can find opportunities for reconnection is by looking at our relationships with others. Have we grown distant from beloved friends? Has it been a while since we called our brother? Have we seen our neighbors lately? It may also be valuable to consider for a moment the people in your life who you connect with each day and explore whether they are getting your full attention.
When you think about your loved ones, are there people with whom you’d love to spend more time? Are you craving some quality time with your partner? Do you wish that you hadn’t fallen out of touch with someone? The beauty of asking questions like these is that we can take steps to address the areas where we need or want more.
There are many chances during this season to create the space to reunite with others. Once we have clarity about who we want to reconnect with, we can decide what that new relationship might look like. Do we want to see someone? If we can’t afford a flight or if the timing does not align, can we use our phone to make a to make a visual or voice call? Are there people we can go to lunch with, grab coffee with, or take a class with? Are there people we simply want to be around more often? What can keep those relationships going once we reconnect? How will we feel when we reconnect? How might our presence and our time impact our life or the lives of others?
Reconnecting with others could be a knock on the door of a neighbor, inviting a friend to your favorite restorative yoga class, calling your family member, or sitting next to a cousin at dinner.
Whatever form it takes, reconnecting with others helps us to create lasting bonds and to deepen relationships. Deciding who to reconnect with also helps us to explore the reasons for the lost relationship and to make uniting a priority in the future.
We can ask ourselves: What can I do to make sure this person continues to be a part of my life? How can I make sure that I feel connected to those I love? The answers to these questions can guide our path moving forward and the connections we deepen may bring us more joy than we anticipated.
There are beautiful benefits to reconnecting with loved ones and far-flung relatives during the holidays, but there is also immense value in finding ways to get back to ourselves and reconnect with who we are at our core.
The holidays may offer us a bit more time and we may very well find ways to fill that time with the business of shopping, cooking, or running errands. We can also decide that some of the time we have this holiday season can be spent, without selfishness or guilt, on taking care of ourselves.
Reconnecting with ourselves can take many forms and what works for one of us may not serve another. The first step in creating a deeper relationship with ourselves might be to ask questions and listen quietly for the answers. What do I need right now to feel whole or connected: body, mind, and spirit? What do I really want more of in my life? How do I feel in this moment, right here and now? What could I do to feel more connected to my body? To my best self?
We can use the answer to these questions to decide how to proceed. Maybe we find ourselves doing a meditative body scan to explore how each part of our body is feeling in the moment. (Perhaps we garner a good deal of valuable information from this exercise and decide to use it in the future.) Maybe we decide that what we need to feel more connected to our body is to change the things we say to ourselves about our body. We might find we need to move more often or desire to address our dietary needs more proactively. Whatever we decide, the simple, quiet asking of these questions can provide us with a reconnection exercise that can be repeated as often as we like.
The value of exploring our own path to deeper or renewed relationships during the holiday season is that the new year is approaching. We can feel a renewed sense of having a fresh start, of being ready to address how we feel about ourselves, and of wanting deeper connections in the new year.
As you progress through this holiday season, invite yourself to explore how you can reconnect with others and with yourself. It may be helpful to use the questions in this article or to develop questions of your own to journal or meditate upon as you conduct this exploration. It may also be helpful to develop a list of actions or activities that can help you connect to yourself or to others and to begin putting those things into your calendar so that you make them happen.
Reconnection to ourselves and others puts us in the position of gift-giving without requiring a trip to the mall or a popular internet site. The act of reconnecting allows us to know with certainty that the most valuable things we can offer to ourselves or others during this season are often the most inexpensive: We can offer our time, attention, compassion, and love.
Nicole Salvatore, M.A. is a writer, coach, and yoga teacher (RYT-200) who holds her master’s in counseling psychology. Her writing spans a variety of topics including wellness, exercise, psychology, mindfulness, personal, productivity, self-care, and self-development. Nicole has created blogs for local non-profits, tech startups, and others in need of content that creates interest in the work that they do. Nicole is also a creative writer ready to tackle new and interesting projects with her signature brand of thoughtful, informative, and heartfelt content. As a coach and yoga teacher, Nicole specializes in helping selfless women stay stellar by reconnecting to themselves, recharging on what brings them joy, and recommitting to nurturing themselves through self-care. Nicole infuses her workshops, classes, and one-to-one work with opportunities for creativity, yoga, self-care strategies, and with mindful living practices. When she isn’t writing or on the mat, you can find Nicole at the beach with loved ones, exploring new restaurants, or volunteering with a local non-profit called Root To Rise. If you have a project or event idea or would like to learn more about opportunities to collaborate, you can connect with Nicole on her website (NicoleSalvatore.Com) or on Instagram (@NicoleSalvatoreLLC).
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