I emailed my girlfriends an invitation for my son’s birthday party this weekend and within the first hour, no one had responded. As I continued to check my phone for updates and RSVPs and see none, I began to wonder…
Where are they?
I guess no one’s going to come to his party.
Are they all somewhere together that I wasn’t invited to?
I scanned my brain, hoping to figure out what could be possibly be going on that weekend and why I hadn’t been asked to attend. The truth was, I emailed these invitations smack dab in the middle of a Sunday. No one was home or by their calendar to even know if they were available and so, they had to wait to respond.
But, being so used to the instant validation, and taking for granted that my girlfriends have lives that have nothing to do with me, I spiraled down a mental pull of despair, feeling less then, left out, and alone.
The mind so quickly takes off far into worry, overwhelm, and distraught. And often I wonder, WHY?
Years ago, when we had to forage, hunt, and sleep in caves to stay alive, worry and fear were an essential part of our operations for survival. Humans lived in constant threat of starving and being excluded meant being abandoned which led to death. Worry, insecurity, doubt, were all simply part of surviving. We NEEDED these instincts to keep us alive and for our species to continue to prosper.
Thankfully, prosper we have! But the development of humankind hasn’t brought us to shed these thoughts. For example, an acquaintance posts something on social media and BOOM the mind begins to spiral. We spend moments wondering what the teachers will think if we don’t pack enough fruits and veggies in our kids’ lunch. And we stress over how to fit in sports, homework and dinner on an average Tuesday night.
We have become consumed with worry, resentment, and unworthiness. So we operate with these emotions controlling, missing out on the most beautiful moments that our lives truly have to bring.
But there is a secret to get us out of this conditioned state of mind. And that secret is the deliberate practice of gratitude.
See gratitude shifts us out of this most profound state of concern and allows us to focus on what is REAL. Gratitude brings forth the glory in our lives and shows us our most divine truth; that we are given, live, and have so much already. Gratitude places us back into our reality, the one that states that no matter what else is going on, there are always things to be thankful for and the rest doesn’t matter anyway.
Gratitude brings us back to our truth. It clears the fog that sits around and allows us to see the sunshine that come through when we make the choice to just simply breathe and recognize it. Gratitude shifts our perception, feelings, and thoughts toward love and love is what we really need to help us all survive.
Dena Farash created The Mindful Mom Revolution to help mothers like herself achieve mindfulness, calm, and accountability in their lives. Through meditation, energy work, reiki, and working with the chakra system, Dena aims to show women that, “the power to create calm in their home begins with creating calm within.”
The Mindful Mom Revolution is a community that offers workshops in which women learn first-hand how to create peace within, so that they can create peace at home. Within this community, women are free to work together to become the best version of themselves. Moms can stay connected at home through a Facebook Group, The Mindful Mom Revolution, where women are encouraged to post and share what has worked well for them in their parenthood journey, or seek guidance in areas where they still need assistance.
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